02 Oct How to choose the wedding card

Many spouses underestimate the choice of the right invitation card, thinking that those who receive it do not read it with particular attention or that they even trash it, writing down the wedding date in the diary.

Maybe it will be true for the most distracted, but an attentive person will know how to pay attention to the type of participation received, the location and the scheduled time, drawing considerations on the tone of the wedding and what she will have to wear.

In the 2.0 era, it is not unusual to receive an invitation to a friend’s wedding in the e-mail box, a method that is certainly useful, economical and effective but very impersonal, cold and reductive, so much so as to place an invitation to a conference or an invitation on the same level. an aperitif with one of the most important days in a couple’s history.

According to tradition, they should be written and delivered by hand, so much so that the custom for carefully selected people to attend social events began just before the eighteenth century, when high society in England and France, including kings, queens, dukes and duchesses, they were the first to have the idea of ​​commissioning their servants, advisers or secretaries to draw it up. The paper used was very valuable and expensive and the ability to know how to write correctly and with a certain aesthetic was seen as a sign of great prestige.

Remember that wedding invitations must be sent to all guests at the ceremony, those with an invitation also to the reception must arrive at their destination no later than a month and a half from the wedding day, those without can arrive even a couple of weeks earlier. . Even the eye wants its part: therefore, a participation in handmade Amalfi paper, with the initials of the spouses embossed or embossed in gold, announces an elegant, traditional and formal wedding, while the colored one, perhaps with drawings witty, it is the prelude to a youthful and informal marriage. According to the style of the participation, the font and color of the print also varies: the “English cursive” is the most elegant and well suited to traditional invitations and the preferred color is sepia, gray or gold. The traditional formula provides that the marriage is announced by the parents of the spouses but today this rule is no longer in use. The “kind request for confirmation”, simplified by the discreet initials R. S. V. P. from the French “répondez s’il vous plaît”, seems to be a must instead. Avoid titles of any kind in front of the name of the guests, unless they are members of the Army or the Clergy, but make sure they are preceded by the formula Gent.mo, Gent.ma or Gent.mi. Tradition and courtesy have it that after the wedding, thank-you cards are sent to relatives and friends who have given a gift to the bride and groom.

And you? Did you follow these bon-ton rules?